Friday, May 17, 2013

some thoughts for the weekend

Trevor and I are going to our first marriage retreat this weekend, and I sincerely hope I behave. I'm looking forward to it, really (free food all over the place, taking notes during lectures, sitting next to Trevor and wondering if my breath smells--it'll be exactly like college!)

I've even been subtly trying to be a better housewife the past few days (I cooked! Dinner!) so I don't go in feeling like a complete failure.

But I hope it's not one of those things where they get all into how men and women are so impossibly different. I tend to get irritated when people make gender stereotypes, especially in regards to marriage. "Men need sex and women need to be cuddled while being fed chocolate"--NO.

I'm not a feminist (though there is nothing wrong with that--don't hate me.) But it irritates me so much because the stereotypes just aren't true. According to all the marriage books I've read, I am basically a man. I have never, for example, picked up the phone and called a girlfriend to gab about my problems. Although, okay, I do kinda like chocolate A LOT. 

We're all just people, more alike than different, and we need (more or less) the same things.

But, like I said, I'm going to try to behave and keep the sarcastic comments to a minimum. I have learned, over and over again, that just because you don't agree with everything someone says, it doesn't mean you can't learn something from them. And could always use some growth and renewal, especially  as a wife. It's going to be good.

Happy weekend, friends!


  1. i hope y'all have a wonderful weekend together!!!
    Hopefully it will be a restoring and fulfilling retreat!

  2. You will be fine!! :) It sounds like it'll be a blast. It is super annoying when gender stereotypes are made but more times than not -- as humans, we're all just different, like you said. :) HAVE FUN!

  3. Hope you have a wonderful time :) I definitely agree, even when you don't agree with a person, you can always learn. Hope you learn lots!

  4. yes. GIRL! according to all those marriage books I am a man too! I can get really turned off by it - but I need to know that it is okay we are all different and i can take those things that are me and apply them to my relationship. marriage conferences and books that are super stereotype driven i just cannot do - it may be helpful for others but not me (and that's okay).


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