Friday, May 17, 2013
some thoughts for the weekend
at 6:13 AM
Trevor and I are going to our first marriage retreat this weekend, and I sincerely hope I behave. I'm looking forward to it, really (free food all over the place, taking notes during lectures, sitting next to Trevor and wondering if my breath smells--it'll be exactly like college!)
I've even been subtly trying to be a better housewife the past few days (I cooked! Dinner!) so I don't go in feeling like a complete failure.
But I hope it's not one of those things where they get all into how men and women are so impossibly different. I tend to get irritated when people make gender stereotypes, especially in regards to marriage. "Men need sex and women need to be cuddled while being fed chocolate"--NO.
I'm not a feminist (though there is nothing wrong with that--don't hate me.) But it irritates me so much because the stereotypes just aren't true. According to all the marriage books I've read, I am basically a man. I have never, for example, picked up the phone and called a girlfriend to gab about my problems. Although, okay, I do kinda like chocolate A LOT.
We're all just people, more alike than different, and we need (more or less) the same things.
But, like I said, I'm going to try to behave and keep the sarcastic comments to a minimum. I have learned, over and over again, that just because you don't agree with everything someone says, it doesn't mean you can't learn something from them. And could always use some growth and renewal, especially as a wife. It's going to be good.
Happy weekend, friends!